What I Thought U.S. Colleges Wanted—And What They Actually Did

By Anjuna S. (not her real name), Undergraduate at a Midwestern University

I still remember the first time I sat down to start my college application for a U.S. school. It was overwhelming. I’d heard stories of students from India applying to top universities like Harvard and Stanford, and I was eager to follow in their footsteps. But the more I read about the process—the essays, the interviews, the recommendations—the more confused I became. What did these colleges actually want from me?

I assumed that if I had high test scores and a solid academic record, that would be enough. I believed that being a hard worker, excelling in math and science, and following a predictable path through school would impress admissions officers. After all, I’d always been told that academic success is what matters most. I had been taught that achievements like winning state science fairs, attending math camps, and acing exams were the hallmarks of success, and I believed that these would be the keys to my future.

But that’s not what U.S. colleges actually wanted.

When I connected with my peer advisor, Sasha (not her real name), a sophomore at an Ivy League school in the U.S., she helped me see things from a new perspective. Sasha, who was originally from Brazil, had gone through the process just a year before me, and she knew the difference between what I thought was important and what U.S. colleges really look for. It wasn’t just about good grades or high scores—it was about the full picture of who I was and what I would bring to their campuses.

Sasha explained something I’d never heard before: that U.S. colleges were looking for students who showed initiative, creativity, and passion—regardless of whether that passion was in academics, art, or community service. She told me that colleges wanted to know about my journey, the challenges I’d faced, and how I had overcome them, rather than just hearing about my academic achievements.

For example, in my application, I had focused on my high academic standing and my success in math competitions. But what I hadn’t focused on was the fact that I had spent the past two years volunteering at a local NGO teaching computer skills to underprivileged children. I had brushed this off as a side project that didn’t carry much weight compared to my academic accomplishments. Sasha helped me realize that this volunteer work was actually an incredible part of my story. It showed that I was not only a dedicated student but also someone who cared about making a positive impact in my community.

With her help, I restructured my essays to reflect who I truly was. I wrote about how volunteering had transformed my perspective on education and what it meant to have access to resources that others lacked. I also shared how this experience had sparked my interest in pursuing a degree in computer science, and how I wanted to create programs that would help bridge the gap between technology and underserved communities.

Sasha also gave me a valuable tip on the interviews. I thought the interview was another opportunity to impress the admissions officers with my grades and achievements. But Sasha explained that they were really trying to see how I would contribute to the campus culture and how I would fit into their diverse student body. She encouraged me to focus on how I could make a difference on campus, sharing specific ideas of clubs or projects I wanted to pursue. This was a complete shift in mindset for me—I’d been so focused on proving I was "good enough" that I hadn't thought about how I could contribute.

When it came time for financial aid, that was another hurdle I didn’t understand. I assumed that as an international student, I wouldn’t qualify for aid at all, as many of my friends from India had been told that it was either unavailable or incredibly competitive. But Sasha encouraged me to look deeper, pointing out that many universities offer need-based or merit-based aid for international students, and that I shouldn’t assume I was ineligible without giving it a try. With her guidance, I applied for scholarships and financial aid, and much to my surprise, I was awarded a meaningful scholarship that made my dream of attending college in the U.S. financially feasible.

The results? I was accepted into three schools, two of which offered me substantial financial aid packages. One of those schools was exactly where I had envisioned myself—the Ivy League school where Sasha was studying.

Looking back, I realize how much I had misunderstood about what U.S. colleges wanted. I thought it was all about grades, standardized tests, and following a specific academic path. But in reality, it was about so much more. It was about passion, initiative, and the ability to contribute to a diverse and dynamic campus. It was about telling a story that was uniquely mine, and finding ways to communicate that in a way that resonated with the admissions team.

Thanks to Sasha’s peer advising, I learned to see the application process through a different lens. I understood that U.S. colleges were not just looking for the best students on paper, but the students who would bring fresh perspectives, creative ideas, and a sense of purpose to their communities. And with that, I found the confidence to tell my story in a way that truly reflected who I was.

In the end, I didn’t just get into college—I got into a place where I felt like I truly belonged, with a story that felt authentic to me. And I’ll always be grateful to Sasha for helping me understand that my worth wasn’t just in my grades, but in the way I saw the world and how I wanted to change it.